As a coach, this time of year, I am always fielding questions about how to deal with difficult family members with the upcoming "forced family fun" of Thanksgiving and holiday season. Nerves, expectations and family history all play into the anxiety of getting together. As a coach, I am worried about YOU, not everyone else. I am worried about how YOU plan ahead, shift your mindset to what YOU can control and enjoy yourself. Holiday time is supposed to be fun, after all.
So, let's get self centered in a good way. Let's think about what you can do to save yourself in these next six weeks. How can you focus your attention on what matters and let go of the stuff that doesn't? How can you keep your regular routines in place, e.g. the ones that help you feel good, like healthy eating, hydrating, sleeping, exercising? How can you protect your time, energy, bank account so that you don't get carried away and regret it later?
This may sound like a lot to handle. Keep it simple--if you can say NO to something you don't want to do--then quickly say NO. That's done. If you can't say NO, then decide how you will protect your peace. Go late; leave early. Participate on your terms. Spend on your terms. Plan ahead on how you will deal with difficult family members. It's them, not YOU. Choose to rise above it all. It's all a version of mindset shifting, and you have the power, so use it.
I know there are plenty of families that have joyful celebrations. There are plenty of people who enjoy hustle and bustle and don't have regrets or resentment. To all of you--you've got it made! Keep enjoying. For everyone else where things can get complicated, know that you are not alone. So make this the year that you take the best care of yourself. Make yourself your biggest priority. Create for yourself the gift of peace--especially peace in your mind.
I am cheering you every step of the way. You've got the power! Use it wisely.
xo Coach Karen :))
PS If you are looking for more inspiration, join me LIVE on Monday November 25 at 10AM CST on LinkedIN when I will break it down!
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